Deploying and Returning Home

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Deploying

We understand that being called for active military duty can be a very emotional and stressful time for military families. Below are some basic tips on how to prepare yourself and your family for a loved one’s departure. In addition there are also some coping tips for family members.

While preparing to leave remember that the pre-separation period is a stressful time for adults, and particularly difficult for children who may not fully understand why one of their parents must leave. The following suggestions may help ease some of the stress of the pre-separation period:

• Talk to your child about the assignment
• Communicate your thoughts and feelings about the separation
• Be open and honest

Some parents worry that advance warning will only give the child more time to worry. However, children can often sense when something is about to happen and become more anxious if no one talks to them. Here are some tips for talking to your child:

• Encourage your child to ask questions
• Respond to your child's concerns
• Tell your child about the arrangements you have made
• Notify your child's teachers/caregivers
• Use simple terms
• Allow your child to express themselves

Returning From Deployment

Return and reunion after a military deployment can be a time of tremendous happiness and relief. But the transition back to family life can also bring its share of challenges. Fortunately there are steps that both returning service members and their spouses can take to make the return to family life as joyful and stress-free as possible:

• Plan something special for each other
• Keep plans simple and flexible
• Make positive comments
• Show appreciation
• Make time for the family
• Take one-on-one with spouse
• Take it one day at a time
• Spend time with each family member individually
• Always talk to each other

Seek professional help if you think there is a problem. Some adjustment problems can be expected after a long or difficult deployment, but if the problems aren’t getting better after a few months, it is a sign that you may need some assistance. Don’t feel that you have to solve serious problems on your own.

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